Mommy's Boy

Firstly, Definition below:

A mommy's boy is a boy or a man who has a very close relationship with his mother. As an adult, a mommy’s boy may talk to his mother on a daily basis and spend more time with her than some consider normal. Often, he will turn to his mother when he needs advice and may respect her opinion above that of other family members and friends. In some cases, a mommy’s boy may continue to live at home with his mother far longer than most adults. A mommy’s boy willingly does things for his mother whenever she needs help and vice versa.Usually, the term mommy's boy carries negative connotations. These men are seen as overprotected, smothered, and incapable of doing things for themselves. Interestingly, however, daddy’s girls are not viewed as negatively. As such, it may be concluded that many view a close and protective relationship between a father and daughter as healthy, yet consider a man’s close relationship with his mother wrong and unnatural.Often, the person who has the strongest feelings of displeasure concerning a mommy's boy’s relationship with is mother is his wife or girlfriend. Frequently, a woman in this position feels insecure about the attention the mommy's boy gives his mother. She may believe his attention should be centered on her. The wife or girlfriend of the mommy's boy may be angered when he seeks his mother’s advice or shares intimate details about their relationship with her. Women in this situation often become extremely resentful of the mother/son relationships.In all fairness, the mother of a mommy's boy may feel jealous and resentful as well. She may believe her son’s significant other isn’t good enough for him. In fact, she may feel that no woman is really good enough for her son. In some cases, the mother of a mommy's boy may actually interfere with her son’s romantic relationship, attempting to cause problems and remain the center of his attention. The mommy's boy may be unaware or unwilling to face up to the negative emotions or behavior of either woman in his life. Though being a mommy's boy is often viewed negatively. It is interesting to note that many people think a man’s treatment of his mother is indicative of the way he will treat his wife or girlfriend. If that is true and the man can love both women, a mommy's boy may actually be a good partner in a close, romantic relationship. That is, of course, if the new woman can find a way to embrace his relationship with mommy and gain her acceptance as well. --Which wont happen

I feel like saying 'Choose' -.- both don't work

Taken out from http://www.wisegeek.com/what-is-a-mommys-boy.htm

To be honest, I kind of admire his devotion to his mom & I rly do think that u can judge how the guy will treat you accordingly to how he treated his mom. I find it sweet that he wanna care for her. But I can't deal with the fact that he's considering her when it comes to our relationship stuff. That he considers her when it comes to moving out & that he defenses his dinner times with teeth and nails.

Ur not supposed to live with ur parents for longer than it's necesary. Ur parents r supposed to raise u as an adult that can take care of himself and stand on his own feet & they raise them up with the thought in mind that they indeed WILL move out. It's only natural. The parental duty ends with adulthood to the most extend. I know there r special cases. I won't go into details here, cuz it's nobody's business. I can fully understand if someone has to take care of their parent when their badly sick. But I can't understand how someone plans his own live after his parents. And I find it kinda egoistical to tie ur kids down, cuz of ur own needs, when you know they should be leading their own life their own way. I rly can't deal with waiting for the next step in my relationship cuz of his mom lol. How does a girl deal with that. Unless shes rly an angel from heaven (and i know such girls still exist), any normal girl wont willingly give up things she want's because it interferes with whats best for the guys mom. Any normal girl ... i can't find any words to describe this around ... any normal girl wont willingly wait for the guy to move out until his mom remarries, because her boyfriend is yet not a day to day part of her life. And what's with my day to day part??? Why me? Why not her? You rly can't please both women in this case. She already has a bf, in the same city & they meet more regular than I meet her son. What more does she still want. I kinda refuse to go along with this, that's too much to ask for off me.

and here let's see if it's even possible to date a mommy's boy, I have taken out the answers from a page, the link will be at bottom.

--You cannot have a relationship with a mommy's boy. Trust Carrie on this.
I once saw a guy and knew at that moment he was meant for me. I cannot explain it, I just knew. We dated for about two years. He was the love of my life. We were in love. We were quite happy together. I wanted to be with him for the rest of my life. There was only one problem, his mommy. His mom liked me but she could not stop hovering over him.
He was 28 years old. His mom did his laundry. She cooked meals for him and brought them up so he could freeze them. She took care of his finances. She had his bank information and paid his bills and such. She even picked out his clothing.
She had a key to his apartment and would come over without calling all the time. She would get upset if I slept over as that was a sin.
We were going to move in together but he could not as his mom would have been mad at him.
I could not take it anymore. Three was a crowd. I broke up with him. We had several talks and he knew that he was a mommy's boy. He liked it I think.
So, from experience, you cannot have a relationship with a mommy's boy.
~Carrie

--nope been there done that and it didnt work because momma didnt want it to

--Nope. It isn't possible because he is already commited to one woman, and in order to be commited to you in the full sense of the word, he'd have to break ties with his mum.

And no, it isn't possible to make him break those ties; he has to decide when he's ready to do so.

Maria XOXO

--NO you can't!
no matter what he has his moms back. If you and his mom disagree - he will almost surely take her side. He will talk to her about private things between the two of you and will most likely take her advice (if she doesn't like you) and get rid of you.

I'm all for a guy who is close to his mom (speaks volumes about the type of person one is) However there is a difference between being close and still attached at the umbilical cord.

http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts4132424.aspx

Seems like a no? Can't date mommy's boys. No woman in their right mind can bear that. This hasn't rly been my blog post at all. But I rly wanted to check the internet if I'm overreacting or if I have a right to be very displeased about this matter. Seem's I'm not SO wrong to not be able to stand this.